continued from part 3
Part 4 Using the Tools from DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)
- “For the past two years, I have had the opportunity to teach the educational components of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Just by chance, the unit I was teaching was Emotional Regulation. If anyone needed emotional regulation at that time it was me. Teacher, teach thyself.”
- “DBT has a technique called Opposite to Emotion. It is just what it sounds like. If you have an unhealthy emotion, act in the way you would act if you were having the opposite emotion. Behavior follows emotion but emotion also follows behavior.”
- “One of the DBT Distress Tolerance Skills is ACCEPTS (another acronym I’ll explain). The A is for activities. A lot of time to sit around and think about everything that is going wrong is not good for anyone. Getting out and about and – for even just an hour – forgetting that all hell is breaking loose in your life is great therapy.”
- “Another reason I dress up is related – sort of – to the IMPROVE (another acronym) the Moment Skills of DBT Distress Tolerance. I am trying to improve the way I think of myself and the situation. Putting on ‘good’ clothes reminds me I am a professional and have a few strong points. The saying is “clothes make the man”. They also make the woman.”
- “Enough said on that. Besides activities and comparisons, there are five more ACCEPTS skills: contribute, (opposite-to) emotion, pushing away, thoughts and sensations (the CEPTS). This website is my idea of contribute. Contribute means doing for others. Get out of yourself and make things better for someone else.”
- “DBT has skills for getting what you want without alienating people and, just as importantly, saving your self-respect. None of us like to grovel or beg. Too old for that nonsense.”
- “DBT has some skills for improving the moment. These skills are good for getting through the rough patches when you are down or frustrated and there is not a great deal you can do about fixing things at that time. Conveniently, they are called – acronym alert here – IMPROVE skills.”
- “Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT) has Self-Soothing Skills that are taught as part of the distress tolerance module. You remember self-soothing? When you were one it was the thumb in the mouth and the favorite blankie. Maybe it was sitting in your crib and rocking. Right now those ways of self-soothing might not appear very appealing, but they worked when you were one. What can we old, mature folks do that will work as well without the stigma…or the buck teeth?”
- “Back on track, DBT concepts here. I think that this situation may highlight the ACCEPTS skills. I see contributing (the first ‘c’ in ACCEPTS). We sometimes have to weather a crisis by getting out of our own problems and helping someone else. It gets the focus off of us. It gets us back into the human race and allows us to flex our compassion muscles instead of our self-pity ones.”